You may have noticed that I haven't blogged for three months …but the likelihood is that you probably didn't and the reason for that is we are all overwhelmed with information which I sometimes liken to white noise. Information is doubling every eighteen months and most of us have become brilliant at scanning/speed-reading/deleting. Our attention span is approximately 4 seconds when we give our attention to something on the internet. If we are not 'caught' immediately we're off to the next.

Reading habits have changed because of the internet – have you ever tried to read a website with a child and found yourself saying 'slow down, you can't possibly read that fast' ... but they can and they do.

So, I have been pondering all this and especially about the amount of time that social media takes up in my life. I recognize that the pressure to 'keep up' has had some effect on the amount of time I dedicate to the big rocks... in other words, the really important or critical work that is essential to move the business forward. It is a thin line and a constant juggle for all of us to prioritize with so many demands on our time.

I took my own medicine ... coached myself ... disciplined myself and asked 'what is the value in all of the activities that you are involved in when weighted against each other?' If we get behind in taking care of our big rocks – strategy/vision/planning/prevention/sales, can we really justify sending another tweet/writing another newsletter or another blog?

And I am fully energized with this new found freedom and want to ask you ... what do you want? So that I can offer you the best of everything without giving lots of stuff that doesn't make a difference I need your help.

Please take some time to email me with your thoughts on how we can best serve you...

* How often would you like to read the newsletter? Monthly or quarterly?
* Shall I blog daily, weekly or monthly?
* Do you understand Twitter? If so, please enlighten me
* What is the best way to bring you free coaching tips?

1. Brief paras?
2. Video clips?
3. By email/text or blog?

Please email me at tracey@eve-olution.net and answer all or some of the above or add whatever comes to mind. Anything will really help to inform the new strategy which must be useful to you first and foremost.

And finally, when was the last time you re-evaluated, took a breath and gave yourself the gift of critical thinking time?

With passion!
Tracey

What a whirlwind month and an eye opener too ! I was honoured to be invited to a charity event hosted by Richard Branson in Verbier, Switzerland to raise money for sustainable development in emerging countries. As some of you know, it is part of our mission, going forward, to take our work to developing parts of the world through the use of technology and we have already established some key relationships with this in mind. Our chosen charity is Microloan Foundation and you can read more about their inspirational work here www.microloanfoundation.org.uk

However, I want to focus here on the lesson I took away from Verbier. Imagine the scene ….the Ball was on top of the mountain and they opened up the bubble car for us to get up there dressed in our finery. First snag …high heeled shoes don’t work too well in deep snow and ice in the dark! So, we wore our snow boots with our party dresses and changed into shoes when we got there. What a giggle!

I was dumb struck as soon as I walked in …not only was it a very small, intimate and very beautiful environment but most of the guests were A listers ….including Princess Beatrice! Now then, I am used to mixing with successful people but this was in a different league. One of the auction bids for a holiday on Necker Island reached the £40,000 mark! Richard Branson was the first person to walk up to me and say hello and, needless to say, he is warm and charming but what a pattern interrupt as I stepped off the bubble car!

As you may know by now I tend to observe and analyse and ask myself questions. My first thoughts were that I felt out of my comfort zone …I realised that we are more comfortable in our own environment and know what to talk about in our usual social circles but what do you talk about to people who are operating in a different social stratosphere? I decided to calibrate, mingle and walk my talk …I decided to be an equal and go and find out about the people as individuals and humans with the same human foibles that we all have.

Once I had got over being ‘star struck’ I had a ball (excuse the pun) and made some very interesting new friends.

Also, in hindsight, I recognize that the whole experience was highly motivating for me. It was good to be reminded that ..no matter how well you think you are doing there is always another level to aim for.

Where in your life could you get out for your comfort zone and take your life to another level?

Back to normality we are buzzing with activity for International Women’s week with free places on our Grab Your Future live webinars (see below) and our Gender IQ platform is really taking off and seems to be ticking the right boxes for Organisations who are asking the question ‘where do we go from here if we want to move from talk to action?’

Places are booking up fast for the June, Authentic Leadership seminar. Isn’t it time you really got to know yourself in beautiful surroundings with wonderful supportive women to create a blue-print for the rest of your life? Join us!

And don't forget to 'live with passion'!

Have you ever been taken aback by the seemingly disproportionate amount of back-biting that seems to go on sometimes amongst a group of highly successful women who are in the same work or social group? Have you ever had a female boss who distances herself from supporting and mentoring more junior women?

This is actually a well known syndrome called 'Queen Bee syndrome' and Wikipedia has this definition: 'A queen bee is the leader of a female group, a clique's leader, usually a popular lady. Characteristics often associated to her are a pleasant appearance, charisma, skill in manipulation, and monetary power. She is sometimes portrayed as the Head Cheerleader, Prom Queen, Homecoming Queen, etc. The queen bee has substantial influence and power over the clique, and is usually envied and looked upon as a role model by clique members and at times by outsiders to the clique. Her actions are closely followed and imitated, even though they may not be of a positive nature. The social role of the outcast is defined as anyone that the queen bee dislikes. Clique members may victimize the outcast in order to continue their membership in the clique, or to receive praise from the queen bee.'


Why do some women feel the need to prove themselves slimmer, smarter, more attractive or successful than others? It is a question that still puzzles me after almost a decade in this work. However I do see certain commonalities amongst people in this group. Firstly, they seem to have a high need for significance and also a high need to prove themselves to the world.

If you have been on the receiving end of this behaviour it can be very painful as it seems to have no basis in fact or reality is driven purely by emotional greed. This can be difficult in a business relationship as these kinds of emotions can be highly destructive, not just to the individual but to everybody involved.

If you know or are involved with a Queen Bee, the best thing you can do is continue to work on yourself so that you can rise above it.

Remember what Jim Rohn once said 'work harder on yourself than you do on your job' and in that way other peoples negativity will just float over your head.

This blog will be a little philosophical....no don't go away, there is an important lesson here for me and maybe for some of you too!

If you are following me on Face book you will know that, on Saturday, I had a fit of spontaneity ...the sun was shining and the Sea was calling, so rubber hit road and off we went to Brighton!

However, it turned out to be a remarkable journey because almost every 5 miles there was a car crash. Crashes appeared to be happening for no apparent reason...no ice, no rain, no snow...just random and spontaneous events. If you believe in energy cycles you would put it down to the waxing and/or waning of the moon.

Then, today, I heard that one of my best and oldest friends had been involved in a serious car accident and so I went to see her. The experience of seeing an old friend in shock and pain left me shocked too ...the sort of shock that makes you re-evaluate and celebrate your life and hug your kids.

Before seeing my friend this morning I had done two hours planning. If you attended my web presentation last week - Grab Your Future by the Horns - you will know that I am a firm believer in planning and staying focused. My plan had been to do 4 hours work before Monday morning. BUT ...the 'shock' of my friends crash was threatening to eclipse all plans.

I had an interesting conversation with my inner voice that went something like this 'sod the work...friends and family are all that matter, work isn't important' but 'work is important ...there are people who like to read my blog' and then 'so, I dont care, I don't want to do it, I want a glass of wine instead and to carry on feeling sad and shocked'

But then I remembered what I had told the delegates in the web conference last week ..'if I get into every' ...wait for it, these were my exact words 'emotional car crash with those I love (especially with 3 teenagers), I will never move ahead.'

So it was with reticence (and a glass of wine) that I sat down to write this blog. I hope that by doing so it has helped you too, to remain on track, ....even when the emotional car crashes are frequent.

My work has been a gift this evening. A poem from 'Guramayi' springs to mind:

I held a moment in my hand,
brilliant as a star,
fragile as a flower,
a tiny sliver of one hour.
I dripped it carelessly,
Oh God, I knew not, I held opportunity

And remember that the emotional car crashes will be more frequent for the female brain because of the way it is wired!

With passion!
Tracey

The seventh tool for increasing effectiveness is to tear up the rule book. I believe that this is imperative at this time for women in leadership because the world is calling for a new model of leadership that includes women. That doesn't mean that the world wants women to lead like a 'bloke in a skirt' but requests that we own our powerful feminine force. That means being authentic and true to yourself.

So ...tear up the rule book, look for new ways to do things and lead with a feminine set of skills, traits and abilities that include collaboration, using intuition, communicating with your team and using a transformational leadership style instead of a transactional one.

This may be harder to achieve than it sounds because women face the 'double bind' which is that you will be damned if you do and damned if you don't. In other words - if you are directive and transactional you might be called too 'ballsy' and if you are collaborative and transformational you might be called too 'soft' This double bind only appears for women as a man might be called a good leader if he is direct and strong. She can't win either way and it is women as well as men who will condemn her if she 'gets it wrong'.

So what do you do? Decide who you are and plan who you want to be as well as what you want to do. Wite yourself a set of promises and goals and find an accountability partner.

Navigating the seas of politics will be easier when you accept that the Leaders' job is to set and maintain the culture. Remember - leading is about being in front and that means that there isn't anybody to follow.

If all of this sounds too conceptual then measure and assess the culture by how people are talking to each other - are they bitching and back biting or are they supportive and goal orientated?

If it is the former then you must go about tearing up the rule book and find ways to work on the culture using your femine strengths of intuition, communication, collaboration and honesty. Work on the culture until it is what it needs to be for you all to grow together.

If enough women did this we might just have a chance of making the change that the world is calling for.

With Passion!
Tracey

Sorry folks .. the 12th February is a Friday and my email addy is tracey@eve-olution.net ....blogging late on a Sunday, night tut tut :-)

2009 wasn't the year that we sat around lamenting the reduction in investment of Leadership development. We took the opportunity, instead, to re-invent our business to better suit your 21st Century needs.

As many of you know, we are now well on the way to delivering a full suite of management development modules incorporating leading executive interviews via web technology. Thank you so much for all the positive feedback. Many companies are licensing the full suite for your internal use which is great. However, if you wish to pay for yourself you can go the website and register for one or all of the workshops here www.genderiq.tv

Also in February we are kicking off our exciting new project 'Grab your future by the horns' which is being hosted by Cisco who have kindly given us the use of their futuristic Telepresence technology (pictured above) If you would like to take part in this event then you can do so free of charge ...either by attending and experiencing Telepresence at Cisco or by dialling in from anywhere in the world at 12.30pm on Thursday 12th February.

Please don't miss this opportunity to get some great coaching on achieving your goals this year in an exciting and innovative environment.

Please mail me on tracey@eve-olution.net and tell if you are interested in attending or dialling in.

Wishing all of us an energetic, different and exciting year.
With passion!
Tracey

Happy New Year and welcome back.

Are you energised and raring to go or suffering post holiday blues and lethargy? Most of us will be feeling the latter ....boring drudge, grey skies, early starts in the dark, missing loved ones. And then..., one or two of us might be feeling like we are ready to take on the world, jump out of bed at 5am to go to the gym before work, excited about all our plans for evolution (not passive New Years resolutions but real evolving and lasting change) and enough energy to light up the dullest office.

What's the difference between these individuals? If you are feeling like the former then I guarantee it is because you feel out of control. If you are excited and energised about 2010 I guarantee you feel in control of your life and dreams and on track for achieving them.

If you want to know how to get from passive (out of control) to active (in control and headed in the right direction) then please give yourself the gift of learning the skills and strategies that will put you back in the drivers seat. We are launching a new web based range of products that will be delivered to you at your desk and if you want to take part in our launch then you can do so absolutely FREE OF CHARGE. What have you got to lose? Email me now on tracey@eve-olution.net if you want to take part in this exciting project that I guarantee will increase the quality of your life this year. Grab your future by the horns!

So....what is the seventh tool for increasing effectiveness? This is the last one and I am in a quandary. We really MUST have physical fitness (strong body = strong mind) on our list but as that is so obvious and will be covered in the 'Grab your future by the horns' programme, I am going to cover something a little more complex here.

The seventh tool is 'tear up the rules of the game' Yes, you heard it right. Leading is about being in front. There is nobody to follow and nobody to ask. If you think about it in the extreme - it isn't the reasonable woman or man that changes the world, it is the unreasonable one. Mother Theresa wasn't reasonable neither was Nelson Mandela or anybody else who ever made a difference to their workplace or the world. The reasonable person can always figure out why something can't be done and that's good and it's logical and it makes sense but the unreasonable person looks for the only way that it can be done. Failure isn't an option with this mindset. As Eddison allegedly said, "I have not failed 1,000 times. I have successfully discovered 1,000 ways to NOT make a light bulb."

I will go into more details on strategy for remaining responsible and professional whilst 'tearing up the rules of the game' in my next blog.

Which I promise ...as I evolve...will be more frequent in 2010

Make 2010 great!